Sympathy

One of the main things required in dealing with those who are hurting is to have real sympathy (Romans12:15; 1 Corinthians 12:26; Proverbs 17:17). This is an application of the basic commandment to love our neighbor (Matthew 22:36-40; Romans 13:8-10; Philippians 2:3-11).  If we really care about people and show we really care about people, we can can frequently get away with things like giving advice and quoting appropriate Bible verses. If we do not show we care, virtually everything we say will tend to bounce off. We can show we care by being there and listening. The problem with showing we care is, it hurts. It is easier to throw out a quick cliche or a Bible verse (a Bible verse in this context tends to become a cliche). Real caring means we hurt with the person. And this is almost never easy. But it is what God calls us to do.